Sociologists use the term “androcentrism” to refer to a new kind of sexism, one that replaces the favoring of men over women with the favoring of masculinity over femininity. According to the rules of androcentrism, men and women alike are rewarded, but only insofar as they are masculine (e.g., they play sports, drink whiskey, and are lawyers or surgeons w00t!). Meanwhile, men are punished for doing femininity and women… well, women are required to do femininity and simultaneously punished for it.
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I think the ‘women are required to do femininity and simultaneously punished for it’ bit sums up 90% of sexism in one sentence.
a derogatory slur for a masculine woman
how do you…how do you think women are rewarded for being masculine??? like at all? and don’t you realize that the only reason why women aren’t being beaten in the streets for acting masculine is because of the work of 50 years of feminism????
It’s more complicated than binary; ciswomen are rewarded for certain masculine-coded behaviors and punished for others in a completely arbitrary fashion. It’s totally awesome if she’s ‘one of the guys’ in that she can drink beer/hard liquor and watch sports and not be ‘high maintenance’ or into that gross boring ‘girly stuff’ - but she also has to retain perfect and effortless femininity while doing all of this ’ awesome guy stuff’. She has to be nonthreatening to masculinity while also not being abhorrently feminine because femininity is weak and stupid and exists to be derided. It’s awesome if your thin, conventionally-attractive, long-haired girlfriend likes watching football, but actual female football players are gross dykes. Especially if they’re better at it than you.
Also, point: “dyke” is not a slur for a masculine woman. It’s an implication that she is a lesbian. A woman is allowed to be (and encouraged to be) as masculine as possible so long as that masculinity means she is appealing to men. This is why being “one of the guys” is OK (because it increases her appeal to men) but doing things like not shaving her legs or wearing unflattering clothing isnot OK, because it means she is no longer considered sexually appealing.
Masculinity in women is allowed only to the point that they are still considered fuckable.
The one thing that always gets me with this quote is the “new kind of sexism” like, uh, I’m 98% sure that this ain’t new. At all. It’s just part of what is at the bones of the ages-old sexism we still got going, and that is slowly being stripped away so its becoming more evident, at most. The favouring of men over women (which STILL HAPPENS needless to say) had masculinity over femininity packaged in with it and, in centuries past, you could even argue that that aspect was the more evident one. Other than that, I do love this quote.